A New Year, A Sweet Year

We've made it, almost, to the end of Elul and Rosh Hashanah.

This came up recently in my Facebook feed. It's really wonderful. It's warm and lovely. It comes from the 92nd Street Y in NYC and a whole host of Reform communities and leaders. The message is just fantastic. Obviously I don't have enough superlative words for it. And it starts and ends with the amazing Angela Warnick, my old babysitter and friend!

I was transported back to my post "That grey area" from a few weeks ago. This is the kind of beautiful messaging we get coming out of the grey area of Judaism. And I'm struck by how little of this we get from the black and white. I don't get it, I just don't.

There's nothing offensive in the message - a new year, a sweet year, a year of hope, a year of goodness for all. But yet, it's not the kind of message coming from Aish HaTorah or Chabad or any of the yeshivot or midrashot educating the current generation of young Orthodox Jewish young men and women.

How could the big picture of the Jewish community change if we had more of these kinds of messages coming from the extremes of the spectrum and not just from the middle?

Shana Tovah to all! A sweet and beautiful, a happy and healthy New Year.

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